Most people simply assume that when they are ready they will become pregnant and have the family they really want. Unfortunately this is not always the case.
In fact, recent research suggests that 1 in 6 couples will have problems conceiving.
This can be a heart breaking scenario. You’ll spend months going through a cycle of hope, followed by despondency or even despair. At the same time all the people round you will appear to fall pregnant effortlessly.
Being told you have endometriosis will be a shock. You will go through several stages of emotion including shock, denial, anger and even depression.
It is important that you develop a strategy to cope with your diagnosis.
What Is Endometriosis?
In short it is a condition when the inner lining of your womb is actually growing on the outside of the womb. This is exceptionally painful. You’ll probably need laparoscopic surgery at some stage to deal with the inflammation and you may even choose to have your womb removed.
This is a big step and acknowledges how unlikely it is that you will ever have a baby naturally. Finding this out is akin to losing someone; the image that you have held for years of having a family will be shattered. To add to the difficulty of the situation you’ll be dealing with the medical issues associated with endometriosis.
Here are some steps you can take to help you cope:
Talk
If you have a partner then it is important to talk to them on a regular basis. No one else will know exactly what the two of you are going through.
It is important to be open and honest with each other; this will strengthen your relationship and help you to face the future in a positive manner.
But, it is also important to talk to others. Specifically you should locate a group in your area where people are also dealing with endometriosis. While your friends may be supportive they cannot appreciate what you are going through, a proper support group can and will help you.
Learning
It is a good idea to learn as much as you can about endometriosis and your specific condition. This will help you to understand what is happening inside your body and what you can do to make yourself more comfortable and even improve the condition.
The internet is your friend when looking for information but there is a lot of information available; it is best to verify it before you get your hopes up each time.
Take Time
There will be times or even days when you feel especially sad or anxious. This is normal. Allow yourself to feel his way; it is a form of grief for the family that you may never have.
But, it is important to place a limit on this. Be sad for a day but make a deal with yourself to get on with life the next day. It won’t take the pain away but it will stop you wallowing in sadness; potentially destroying your own life.
Creating a plan of action will help you to achieve the results you need; accepting the condition and looking at all the options available to you.
